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Post by kitten1289 on Mon Apr 25, 2011 7:18 pm

My boyfriend (now ex) dumped me almost a month ago because he has been feeling numb from money problems, family problems, work etc. He says he's not in a "relationship mode" so he says it's unfair for him to keep me as his girlfriend if he can't give me the simple basic needs in a relationship. He tells me to keep my options open BUT he says he has nothing against us going back with each other. We were going out for almost two years now and I'm still in love with him. I don't know if I should leave him or wait. Because he said he doesn't know how long it's going to take for him to feel like himself again. And now his feelings are mixed about me. I'm stuck because I'm still IN love with him and it's difficult for me to move on because I don't want to and it hurts to think about it. Sad What do you guys think I should do? Should I move on or stay to see what happens? Thanks for taking the time to read this, i know it's long >.<
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Post by Krissy on Mon Apr 25, 2011 7:23 pm

aww.*hugs* I'm very sorry.Think if i was you i would move on. Give him his space and time he needs. If things are meant to happen he will come back.

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Post by Quincy on Mon Apr 25, 2011 8:21 pm

Since I don't actually know his situation I might not be giving the best advice but... they way I see it is, he gave up when times got hard. If he's going to give up on the relationship just because times weren't smooth and easy maybe it's time to move on. If the relationship is going to last he needs to be able to be committed no matter. You should be his support when times are hard, not just something that is easily thrown away. I think if you love him enough that you want to be with him even when he's going through a darker time in his life, you should talk to him before 100% trying to moving on and explain that you love him and want to help but pushing you away makes it hard for you. He may just need something stable in his life that gives him hope that everything will be alright in the end. I really feel that sitting down with him and talking it out him him would be best. It seems the way things ended (him telling you to try to move on, but he may end up wanting you back) is too vague and unfair to you. It sounds like he's giving you the go ahead to move on, while wording it in a way that entitles him to be upset with you if you do. There needs to be a more definite end, otherwise it sounds like it's a sure way for someone to end up hurt. (i hope that helps)

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Post by kitten1289 on Mon Apr 25, 2011 9:50 pm

Thanks you guys. Your advice means a lot. I'll take a lot of thought into it. I just hope everything turns out for the best. This whole situation is stressing me out. >.< Thanks again!! <3
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Post by BrowniesBeffy on Tue Apr 26, 2011 6:13 am

*Gives a big bear hug*
I'm so sorry. I don't know what to say, I've never had a boyfriend. I'm sorry..
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Post by catloafwithpotato on Tue Apr 26, 2011 11:27 am

Well, Quincy gave you some really good advice there. I wanted to say that you don't have to go out and date someone else right away, but you shouldn't wait around for someone that, well, based solely on what was said here, honestly doesn't sound all that invested you. Leaving someone you're in love with hurts like nothing else, but sometimes it's something you need to do for yourself. And it might take a really, really long time to heal your heart, but it will happen. I love you
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Post by Inertial Mass on Tue Apr 26, 2011 11:28 am

Take a break, and step back. Focus on something else for a while and give him space. Pick up a new hobby, or get one of those massive Stephen King books (I suggest the Stand, it'll keep you occupied for months.) Do whatever you can to focus your attention somewhere else.
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Post by kitten1289 on Tue Apr 26, 2011 12:33 pm

Aw geez I love you guys :') You guys are making my day a whole lot better. Thank you for the useful advices. I'm thinking to just give him all the space and I'll focus on myself and see what happens between us then. Smile
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Post by Krissy on Fri May 20, 2011 7:02 am

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